Be Unashamedly Crazy!

 

 

 

Have you ever been called crazy? Even if it’s in jest, there’s something slightly demeaning being a woman and being called crazy. It’s saying you’re not normal, or other ‘normal people’ disapprove of you. It’s one of those passive aggressive sayings that people come out with when they feel threatened by you. You’re not quite playing the game they would like, or they wouldn’t have the balls to do what you do.

I’m here to tell you to embrace your crazy and take it as a compliment because it means that you have stepped out of the box. You have found your own identity and have the courage to say, f*** you and live your life as you want to live it.

It’s interesting how many women are called crazy by men when they begin to take a stand in their relationships – ‘crazy ex’, ‘crazy wife’, ‘crazy boss’. It’s not only insulting, but it’s also unimaginative and again it all comes down to other people not feeling comfortable with how you have changed. They feel challenged or threatened and the only way they can handle it is to tell other people you’re crazy.

‘You’re crazy to start a business in a recession!’

‘You’re crazy to leave your job with no other job to go to!’

‘You’re crazy to think anyone else would want you!’

‘You’re crazy to want a divorce in your fifties!’

‘You’re crazy to travel alone!’

‘Your crazy to want to bring up a child on your own!’

‘You’re crazy to drop out of uni!’

And so on -Yawn.

It’s not only an unimaginative reaction, it’s also a bloody boring one! The people who tell you that you’re crazy are the ones who are more comfortable staying in the same job, village, lifestyle for the rest of their life. They are sticklers for the rules and follow the tried and tested route their ancestors have followed for eternity – because it’s safe and secure. Anything slightly out of the box is way too scary and, well, something only a crazy person would do.

I’ve been called crazy many times in my life. I was told I was crazy by the education system, parents, family, and neighbours, to believe that I, girl-with-a-handful-of-GCSEs, could possibly home-school my three children. But I have never let others’ opinions detract me from doing what I want to do.

When I started my property business I was constantly told I was crazy, particularly because I was a woman and wanted to be involved in the whole process from building a property to managing my portfolio. Everyone from solicitors, friends and tradesmen all told me I was crazy to invest my money in property.

History is saturated with successful women who have been called crazy – commander of the French army, Joan of Arc was tagged with every psychotic disorder known to man. Her ‘craziness’ has been documented for everything from wearing men’s clothing to practicing witchcraft. Despite all this, JAC was a fearless warrior who negotiated the war between France and England.

Move to modern times and whilst they no longer burn ‘crazy women’ at the stake, many high-profile females have had the #crazy added to their names – Lady Gaga, Britney Spears, Jane Fonda, Joan Rivers, Miley Cyrus, Kirsty Alley, to name a few. What do these women all have in common other than being called crazy? They are all hugely successful, independent women who have had the audacity to unapologetically be themselves - oh and they have earned millions from their talents. If a male celebrity is called crazy, it’s said in admiration, rather than belittlement. In fact men are rarely called crazy. They are considered eccentric, unconventional and geniuses, not crazy.

Crazy women are fabulous women. They get things done. They take risks others wouldn’t dare to take and they embrace their craziness. Crazy women are the ones who will work hard to get what they want. They will dress however they want to dress. They are the ones to ask questions and say, ‘why can’t I do this?’ and demand answers. Crazy women are the ones who defy expectations and flout the rules – they also make people feel very uncomfortable because they break the rules of the norm.

In order to live your happy ever after, I’m here to encourage you to embrace your crazy and be unashamed about it because when you do, those people who decided you’re crazy will be the ones looking on from the side-lines, still doing what they have always done but secretly wishing they had been crazy enough to take the chances you did.